Tag Archive | encouragement

It’s all about you!

When I was in my early 20’s I had a bad attitude and felt others were doing me wrong and it was all their fault. The incident that took me over the top was a bill I did not create but was being made responsible to pay for because someone failed to remove my relocation request, which left the service available for the new tenant. It resulted in lots of frustration and disrespect.

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I had a mentor by the name of Mary W. and she was very instrumental in assisting me to use the power of my words and personal accountability to resolve this ongoing battle which has lasted at least 1 year. Before meeting her, I did not think that was possible. I was used to blaming, shaming, cursing and manipulating my way out and around situations. It was a huge part of a societal coping mechanism that I was accustomed to.

Fast forward. Using the techniques Mrs. W showed me, I was able to get the head manager on the phone in less than 5 minutes and the bill issue resolved, but still needed to round up documents to prove that I was not the responsible party. I didn’t want to do the extra leg work, but having the bill resolved was motivation enough for me to do so.

That incident was the catalyst for showing me that personal accountability was empowering and a way to relieve lots of the stress I was accustomed to thinking it was normal. I want to encourage you to own the results you expect in life.

Here is a link that lays it out in several areas of life: http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/10/07/personal-accountability%E2%80%94a-requirement-for-life-advancement/

Scar tissue

We’ve all fallen down as children and maybe scraped our knee or elbow.  The healing process varies in duration.  Along the way it stops bleeding, itches, is coated with a scab.  Sometimes we pick at it, other times we just let nature run its course.  At first sight the wound more than likely looked like it would never heal… but it did.  How do we know? Because the scar tissue is a reminder of where we’ve been and also what event left us with interesting body art.

Today I experienced something in a conversation that could have potentially wounded me, but I have “fallen” down on this same place emotionally several times in the past.  I’ve grown emotional scar tissue so thick that that event does not open the wound for me anymore. I recognized it and stayed focused on what I was there to do, it was to teach and not fall down.

I want to encourage you today to not fall down.  If you do, hopefully you have emotional scar tissue to buffer you.  If not, know that it will itch, scab over, and eventually heal. Each time you fall down on that same “spot”, you start to recognize that the impact of the fall is not as damaging.

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