When I was in my early 20’s I had a bad attitude and felt others were doing me wrong and it was all their fault. The incident that took me over the top was a bill I did not create but was being made responsible to pay for because someone failed to remove my relocation request, which left the service available for the new tenant. It resulted in lots of frustration and disrespect.
I had a mentor by the name of Mary W. and she was very instrumental in assisting me to use the power of my words and personal accountability to resolve this ongoing battle which has lasted at least 1 year. Before meeting her, I did not think that was possible. I was used to blaming, shaming, cursing and manipulating my way out and around situations. It was a huge part of a societal coping mechanism that I was accustomed to.
Fast forward. Using the techniques Mrs. W showed me, I was able to get the head manager on the phone in less than 5 minutes and the bill issue resolved, but still needed to round up documents to prove that I was not the responsible party. I didn’t want to do the extra leg work, but having the bill resolved was motivation enough for me to do so.
That incident was the catalyst for showing me that personal accountability was empowering and a way to relieve lots of the stress I was accustomed to thinking it was normal. I want to encourage you to own the results you expect in life.
Here is a link that lays it out in several areas of life: http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/10/07/personal-accountability%E2%80%94a-requirement-for-life-advancement/